How to Spot a Liar By Steve Papallo
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When someone is lying they often try to cover it up by creating gestures that say the exact opposite than the words they speak. However, the body has a tendency to give itself away with very subtle movements such as:
The Fleeting Expression
You ask a salesman a question and he tries to answer in an upbeat and convincing manner, but that tiny switch (look quick before you miss it) in his cheek gives him away — he’s lying! The face is full of involuntary movements that most people cannot control. Gestures that may signal deceit include: minor muscular twitches; pupil dilation; a small bead of sweat on the brow or forehead; or even a slight pinking of the cheeks. These signs aren’t obvious. As a matter of fact, they’re often hard to distinguish between normal looks, especially if the person talking looks very calm and composed. But rest assured, they are there if you pay attention. And when you notice one — watch out — something’s up.
No Expression at All
While sudden facial twitches or movements may signal deceit, so does a total lack of expression. The fact is people — even the most composed of us — show some emotion on a constant basis. We smile, we frown, and we grimace. When someone puts on their best “poker face” you can be sure that they’re trying to hide something. Try to determine if they are forcing a non-expression or simply don’t have one at the moment? Look for a narrowing of the eyes, tense forehead, or even a tightened jaw. This often is the sign of someone trying to keep their feelings (and their expressions) to themselves.
Eying Someone Up
People who are lying will use one of two strategies: they’ll either look you straight in the eye; or they’ll avoid eye contact altogether. If you know the person well, you can use past experience to tell you what they’re up to. But, if you’re trying to gauge the truthfulness of a stranger you may have to look for a few other sign such as:
* Rubbing their eyes. People who are lying often rub their eyes while speaking. Men tend to rub fast and hard (as if to erase the lie); while women use gentler motions.
* Darting Eyes. Many people can’t bring themselves to look their victim in the eye when they are trying to deceive them and instead seem to dart from one person or object to another in an attempt to create visual confusion.
Can’t figure out whether someone is looking away because they’re lying or because of something else? Ask them a few simple questions that will elicit an honest response and see where their eyes tend to lay. This can help you gauge if the other things they are saying are true or false.
The Cover-Up
People who are trying to be deceptive often touch their faces while speaking. The most common cover up involves the mouth. If you notice someone covering their mouth in any way while speaking, it may indicate a deception of some sort. Of course, not all liars are so obvious. Some use more subtle motions like:
* tapping the mouth with several fingers
* resting the hand on the chin and touching the corner of the mouth with one finger
* placing a single finger across the mouth in a “sshhing” motion
* a fake cough
* clearing of the throat
And these gestures are only the tip of the iceberg. There are plenty more body movements that give away whether a person is lying or not.
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Steve Papallo is a body language enthusiast and author. For more great body language lying discovery techniques, visit http://www.ourbodylanguage.com. |
Finding the Love You Desire By Bryan Appleton
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Love. It’s one of those things that many people will spend most of their lives looking for. It’s also one of those things that many people give up on, frustrated with past disappointment or broken hearts. But, you don’t have to give up on falling in love. Instead, you can learn to focus your mind so that you do find it and with a lot more ease than you may have expected.
Is there a secret to finding this elusive connection?
First of all, think about what your expectations are. DO you believe that it is hard for you to find romance or intimate connections?
If so, then you are blocking yourself from what it is that you really want to have and to hold.
CLOSE YOUR EYES…
Close your eyes for a moment and allow yourself to picture what you see when you think of love. Do you see images of heartbreak or of joy and happiness? This will give you a clue as to what you really associate with this mysterious emotion.
Knowing what may be blocking you from experiencing the romance or the relationships that you desire is just a start. Once you know this, you can learn what you need to do in order to make it happen. And it can!
But it won’t if you do not believe that it will…
So, start to believe that it can and will happen for you. Erase the memories of the past and declare your new future. Get excited and inspired to find that romantic relationship that you really want.
That is what you want, isn’t it?
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Finding Your True Love - It’s Not Just in the Movies! By Tina L. Jones
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Is finding your true love a dream? Do you even know where to look for it? Could it be that you’ve already come across it and you don’t realize it? Everyone, male and female, talk and wonder about finding true love because it’s about people not one particular set of people. Some people are very lucky and find their true love right away while some others will have to have some unsuccessful romances before finding the right one. If you fall into the later category here are some secrets on finding your true love.
There are always options.
True love isn’t found in one place. It can be anywhere you are. You won’t expect it but it will be there and you have to recognize it. You can’t sit at home and wait for it to come to you; you will have to keeping on looking. Go to the places that people meet and socialize. In today’s world, there are many options.
Visit some of the many dating sites online where people just like you are searching for their perfect match. Singles go many different places such as bars, coffee houses or sporting events. Circulate and get to know people because if you don’t, you may never come across the one guy that is out there waiting for you. Speed dating is gaining popularity as well as commercial matchmakers for very busy professional people.
It’s really a shame that you couldn’t just go to someone in the know and have them tell you who would be perfect for you and where to find them. Unfortunately, this is something that you will have to tackle alone. There is also the element of searching and the excitement of the chase that will keep you looking. Here are some things to help you get started in your quest for finding your true love.
Knowing what you want.
Be honest with yourself and identify what you really want from a suitable partner. List what qualities you will really want and also the ones that will turn you off. Make sure the things that you write down are all of your thoughts and not advice from someone else. You will the one that will have to live with this person so do not settle for less than what you really want.
Reach for the sky.
When you have looked inside and discovered what you really want from a potential mate you will want to focus on those good qualities when you meet someone. Set the standards high and don’t compromise on your ideals. You deserve the best guy that fits your standards and you do not have to ever settle for second best.
Don’t lose sight of what you want or give up.
No matter how many times you come home frustrated and wonder when you will finally find the love of your life don’t give up the fight. You cannot let this journey get the best of you. You have to believe that he is just out there waiting for you and you just have to find him. In the meantime, enjoy your life and be happy with what you have. Being in love with yourself is the very best way to make another person happy and you will be ready for that perfect relationship you’ve been looking for.
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How to Approach Relationships After Break Up Or Divorce - Create an Exit Door in Your Heart! By Vincent Yim
Posted by: emmyebimoh in: ● April 3, 2009
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Most of us ponder over this question - how to approach relationships after break up or divorce, and fail to arrive at a possible solution. There can be many reasons for a break up and it is no point trying to make yourself crazy about the entire situation.
You may feel that you are completely innocent and have been cheated, but the best way is to move ahead in your life leaving the bygones behind. During these difficult times, we usually end up making emotional decisions instead of thinking logically. This, however, is not the best way to figure out a solution. In the paragraphs below we will peek into a better way to handle such emotional outbursts.
The best way is to get over the pain of an ended relation and to move on and find a new connection again. In simple words, simply try to date somebody else and do not try to remember your past. Some people, who would have expected you to go through a miserable and lonely phase, would definitely find it a selfish and altruistic step. But this act of yours will help you to avoid the rebound zone. Being alone and lonely is simply like punishing yourself for no reason at all.
It is suggested that you make the decisions based on what feels right for you. I always believe that the best way to figure out what we want is to experience what we do not want. People might just react to your decision with a negative emotion but always remember that it is ultimately your life and only you are responsible for controlling it. It is also advised to associate yourself with optimistic and high-energy people so that you can get out of the separation blues.
The second major step is to focus on your ambitions, that is, what you want in your life and stop brooding over what is missing from your life. It is specially prohibited to listen to all the sad numbers that are depressing and that attract all sorts of negative energy.
Avoid watching the ultimate gloomy news channels. In such situations, only those programmes that have an inspirational message are worth watching. Just like your body needs nourishment, similarly, your mind needs proper upliftment. It is better to nurture your inner self and come up with a positive outlook and frame of mind.
An important implication is to talk positive about yourself. Our mind works like a tape recorder and stores everything what it hears. It is always suggested to speak positive about yourselves, something that you accomplish and not something that you regret.
These are some basic baby steps that can help you to relive your emotions and come out of the depressing phase of your life. It is important to get through the feeling of poor self-esteem when your significant other has left you midway in the path of life.
If you cannot think clearly and do not know how to face such consequences, it can be very difficult to survive the pain of a break-up or a divorce. The best solution ever for such a devastating situation is to follow your heart even if it goes against the advice of your most trusted person. It is you who can control your destiny and what is right for the others may not always be right for you in your “how to approach relationships after break up or divorce” ideas.
